After three months without intimacy, she requested that I see a doctor and I agreed to do so. However, what she doesn’t know is that in order to have a marriage with this wonderful woman, I have been suppressing my desire to cross-dress.
I have been searching the Internet for days to find a therapist who can help me bring this issue out in an appropriate way. Many of the websites I’ve seen don’t appear to be professional.
I don’t want to talk to my wife without a professional present because I fear disastrous results. I love her dearly. What do you suggest?
No Life Without Wife
Dear No Life: We suggest you contact The Society for the Second Self and ask whether they can refer you to a therapist. You also can look online or in your phone book for a gender therapist or ask your doctor to refer you to someone.
Please don’t keep your wife in the dark. She deserves to know the truth about what’s going on, and she can also be a source of support.
Dear Annie: An office co-worker is getting married and she invited me to her bachelorette party. The plan was to take a limo and the cost was $60 per person. The maid of honor asked whether the price would be OK, and even though I thought it was a bit pricey, I agreed.
The day of the party, two of her friends did not show up. Two days later, the bride and her maid of honor texted the rest of us to pay an additional $20 to cover the cost of the no-shows.
I feel this request is tacky. Why am I responsible for friends who aren’t reliable? And isn’t this part of the cost of planning a party? You don’t expect your guests to pay for food that doesn’t get eaten. Why should we pay the limo costs for people who don’t show up?
