I'm not one that is typically active on this site. I set up the account a while ago simply to print off some of the stories here for my husband to read. But, now I'm wondering if any of you would be interested in helping to encourage my husband with some things.
First off, a little background. We have been together for five years and married for four. I'm the one that introduced him to the "big baby" world. It started off as some simple, honest fun... and, it is still simple, honest fun. But, now I know there is a whole "big baby" world and literally thousands of people who have a desire to dress like babies and toddlers.
The only thing that may make us different from others is we... or, more like I want us to push the envelope. I don't want the fact that we want to dress like little kids to have to be hidden from the rest of the world. My husband wants to be completely free with it, too. But, I have to work on him and encourage and guide him along... Because, let's face it. It's much more of a statement for my husband to be shopping at walmart in some frilly, pink outfit than it is for me. And, it's an even bigger statement for both of us to be out in public wearing frilly, pink outfits together.
Regardless, it is still our ultimate goal to slowly become comfortable with a 100% transition to a wardrobe with nothing but baby and toddler like attire, and to be dressed that way 24/7/365.
It's a lot, I know. But, it's not something we're just jumping into. We have a long list of little baby steps that we have agreed to take that lead all the way to our ultimate goal.
We have acquired many different things. Most of them are home attire and easy to do. We've got regular pajamas, footed pajamas, onesies, kiddie like underwear, pull-ups, diapers... We've even got some things to put together outfits such as fun, cartoon printed shirts, winnie the pooh and mickey mouse shortalls, we've got some shortalls that have snap crotches, we've even got several styles of the new Disney-Vans shoes that have been coming out. And, we have tons of fun, cute socks.
Like I said, we're comfortable being inside. Where things get tricky are with my husband and getting him out of the house. Of course, I don't expect him to be in a full outfit right away. Like I said, we have an entire plan of small steps. For example: Our first step was socks. Just for him to wear the cute, baby like socks so that they can be seen. I understand that even that small thing is a big adjustment. It takes a lot of getting used to to go from wearing simple white or black socks to a bold look like socks with bright pink, stripes, polka-dots, hearts, or teddy bears on them. But, he's done it! He's spent the past two summers showing his new, fun socks everywhere... and, even over the cold months where he can't wear shorts, there are still situations where he has to take his shoes off and there are his socks for everyone to see. He's gotten used to it now. He owns the socks! So much so that there is no longer any embarrassment.
So, here's my thing. Since he's now comfortable with the socks as they are, it's time to move onto the next step. And, the next easiest step to take is to add lace to all of the socks. I've mentioned it to him, and he's super, SUPER nervous about it. But, I know that if he brought himself to do it and start getting comfortable with it, he'll be glad he did!
So, here's my question. I wonder if any of you would be willing to encourage him to go for it? He's kind of a little panicked at the moment. He's been out in public in lacy socks before, but this would eventually mean that all of his socks would be lacy and he'd be seen wearing them everywhere.
There's really nothing for him to be nervous about. Even my husband, as shy as he can be, would want to be looking cute and not let what anyone else thinks matter. Adding lace to all of our socks is the easiest next step we have, so if we want to continue to eventually have a 100% babies/toddlers wardrobe and be comfortable enough to be out in public, this is the next direction for both of us.
We have to keep moving forward. If we don't, we have a tendency to start stepping back and giving up. Believe me, it would mean a lot to him! He just needs a little support.