The second was a kinky friend who basically seduced me and used me as a BDSM plaything while in the middle of a spat with her boyfriend.
Both were quite fine with me crossdressing and being feminine, but neither one accepted diapers.
Then I met the woman I would later marry, a woman who accepts me as a sissy: as a little girl at heart, a crossdresser who loves to wear diapers and at least sometimes play the role of a little girl.
Yeah, often our relationship, day-to-day, is normal, but I'm always in panties (not a single pair of men's underwear in our house), and I'm diapered for bed every night. . .and how that has turned out to actually help our household.
Okay, now for the story.
6 years ago, I was introduced by a mutual friend (who knew of my gender issues) to a friend of his, a girl who he knew to be friendly to tgirls.
Well, we struck it off well. It was love at first sight, literally. We had a great romance and a long distance relationship which turned into her moving in with me about 6 months later.
She knew about my crossdressing, and was A-OK with it. I decided to tell her about my love of diapers. This is where I got lucky.
She wasn't an ABDL herself, but she accepted it, and she understood how diapers could be practical and useful. You see, she was in the middle of a divorce from her husband, and had a 1 year old daughter. She already had an overactive bladder, and like some women, she experienced bladder control issues after childbirth. Her OB/GYN suggested she wear adult pull-ups until she got full control back. She did get her control back after several months, but she did realize how convenient a diaper can be, especially for a woman with a tiny bladder who has to go all the time. So, she let me know that while it wasn't a fetish, she sometimes wore diapers out of practicality, and had no problem with me being diapered sometimes or no problem with it being a turn-on for me.
When the divorce was final, her ex-husband has visitation with her daughter and during those times we'd completely go full-on with my feminization, like wearing dresses and skirts at home. I'm already on a mock period schedule synched to my wife, so I'm riding the cotton pony about 5 days a month, and lots of other little things like keeping my body hair shaved and always peeing sitting down.
One thing we do when her daughter is away is have me become her daughter. One of the first things we did, when she was still nursing, was for her to nurse me at her bosom. She said that once she'd changed my diapers and nursed me at her breast, I'd always be her daughter, I could be other things too, including her lover, but in one way I'd always be her child since I'd drawn sustenance from her breasts. She kept nursing me until she was weaned.
She's remarkably able to see me as both her lover and sexual partner, and her daughter, without mixing the two and it feeling incestuous to her. She positively loves to change my diaper, and if I'm erect, tell me she'll take care of that, by pulling aside her panties, climbing on me, and riding me until I climax, then finishing the diaper change.
She usually wears a pull-up when she's diapered, but sometimes we've reversed the roles with her in a full taped-on diaper, and when I change it, I enter her and we make love before I tape the diaper up.
I've never had a true bedwetting accident, but sometimes I do wake up at night, wet my diaper, and go back to sleep. If I'm diapered, I use my diaper as intended.
I'd generally at least keep up some pretense of being male at home when my stepdaughter is there there to avoid confusing her about gender roles, thus nothing too obviously sissy. Also, I didn't want her to see anything that could be misconstrued and say something to her father and him try to take it to court alleging an abusive environment.
Well, the interesting thing came a couple of years ago. I was already diapered for bed every night, and my wife didn't wear them to bed at nights, but did sometimes like for a long car ride. My stepdaughter had been potty trained, but still had a big bedwetting problem, and rarely had a dry night.
So, we suggested she go into goodnights to stay dry. She was afraid to, telling us that only babies wear diapers and she didn't want to be a baby, that she wanted to be a big girl. Well, my wife explained that a dry bed is safe and healthy and comfortable, and sometimes even grown-ups have to wear diapers.
She told her daughter that sometimes adults have to wear diapers, and that's okay. She told her that to show her that it's okay for grown-ups to wear diapers, that we'd both wear diapers to bed if she'd wear a goodnight to bed. She agreed, and we went out and bought goodnights for her, and made sure she saw us buying diapers for both of us. Adult pull-ups for her, and tabbed baby-style diapers for me, like we usually wear anyway. Her seeing that they made diapers for grown-ups helped some, her seeing that we would wear them helped more.
Now, when we put her to bed, sometimes we'll remind her that we're in diapers too so it's okay for her to be diapered for bed. At first we had to show her that we were diapered too for her to believe it, but we haven't had to do that in a long time.
Yeah, she mentioned this to her father during a visitation apparently, who called my wife to ask WTF with us being in diapers. She told him it was to encourage her to actually wear them so she could stay dry at night, and to make sure she didn't feel ashamed of being a bedwetter or needing diapers at night and didn't grow up with guilt and shame. He accepted that and never mentioned it again.
Even on the nights she's not there, we're both diapered. Me, because I love to wear them and I'm a DL, her, because she knows it turns me on and seeing her in just a pull-up (or on rare occasion one of my "brief" style diapers because it's even a bigger turn on for me) is incredibly sexy lingerie as far as I'm concerned.
So, come bedtime in our household, we're all diapered and my wife and her two daughters sleep like babies.
