Help what do I do
I can not tell by what you are saying that your wife may be unfaithful. If she is however I would collect as much evidence as possible without letting her know you are doing it.
I hope the problem is not as serious as it would appear. Look out for yourself and your bank account and assets. If this woman would commit adultry, then divorce her and let her new man take care of her.
Make sure you have the evidence first, courta usually don't award large sums of money to a wife who is divorced for adultry and being unfaithful. That said I hope if works out without going to this extent.
I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!! HELPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!! I CAN'T LOSE!!
You need to have a serious discussion with her, perhaps consider couple counsellling to see if theres anything that can be resolved.
It takes two to tango, if she absoultely doesnt for whatever reason, at all; you cannot force her to love you back. But you need to establish if this is the case or not clearly.
I hope you do not do anything rash and remember to love and value yourself.
Could be time for a change of phone for the other half. But possibly get a new one yourself at the same time. If it carries on after that, with a new number, then you know further help is needed.