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Wannabe_Baby

Posted August 7th, 2009 ~ 11:20 pm

so my question is... does anyone here try to retain a any shred of masculinity?

i know everyone(or at least a vast majority of people) love feminine things and try to be as fem as possible, but does anyone actually enjoy being masculine from time to time?

i know i dont. or at least not on purpose, i've found myself doing masculine things and stop as soon as i realize it.

like the other morning, me and a couple friends were at the breatfast table and we had a very competitive farting contest(i know its gross, but you know, old habits) and i won.

then i realized what i'd just did, and thought "wow, what is wrong with me?"

Personally? Yup, I do. I like being male. And although I wouldn't go for farting contests (ewwwww! That's not manly, it's just gross), I enjoy being male.

I'm not exactly masculine though. I don't have an interest in sports or cars or beer, for example, three things that are supposedly masculine. But I enjoy being male, support men's rights and, despite wanting to be a sissybaby, I don't want to be female. Although I know that might shock a few people, being female isn't something that appeals to me.

The thing is though, there's far few things in society these days than can be identified as "masculine" as there is that can be identified as "feminine". Which is unfortunate because, to go over a topic that I'm sure has been discussed here many-a-time, it's unfair that women can do things that had once been predominately male activities but it doesn't work the other way around. There's a lack of masculine identity; what can we do that is "masculine"?

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SissyJessy

Posted August 8th, 2009 ~ 12:06 am

I do agree with wannabe, but I think that has more to do with my current living arrangements and lack of people I can be feminine with. I do think when I live alone, I will still do "manly" things from time and time again, but I will cut down a bunch from now <3

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RedHeadBunny

Posted August 8th, 2009 ~ 5:20 am

I consider myself very masculine; I'm a cigar chompin', car lovin', football watchin', belchin', arm wrestlin' sunnuvagun. You know the man that was raised by wolves... I'm the girl that was raised by rednecks.

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wittle_bwittany

Posted August 8th, 2009 ~ 1:58 pm

I consider myself very masculine; I'm a cigar chompin', car lovin', football watchin', belchin', arm wrestlin' sunnuvagun. You know the man that was raised by wolves... I'm the girl that was raised by rednecks.

so was I!!! thats just the way things are in the south, girlieness just doesnt quite shine as bright as it does up north. thats what made me ask this question.

(ewwwww! That's not manly, it's just gross)

i know what you mean, but it comes with being raised in georgia. especially by my family, in this family its not considered gross, its status report. like how guys argue about penis sizes.

i am brittany her royal puffiness!!!

im officially in love with the color pink.

*hugs and kisses for all*

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SissyJessy

Posted August 8th, 2009 ~ 4:35 pm

i know what you mean, but it comes with being raised in georgia. especially by my family, in this family its not considered gross, its status report. like how guys argue about penis sizes.

Oh geez, don't even get me started on guys arguing about penis sizes, it has to be the worst conversation for a sissy ever... I hate it so much >

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Andreea

Posted August 8th, 2009 ~ 4:59 pm

Depends on the situation, really. Whilst I wouldn't complain if I woke up one day to find myself genetically reversed for good, I find some aspects of my "masculine" life to be satisfying. I enjoy modelling (as my male self, though again, I wouldn't object to doing it differently ...). I am interested in antique weapons. I am unhealthily attached to George Romero films and Thomas Harris books and films. I am only attracted to women and especially to my fiancee, for whose sake I could never contemplate gender reassignment, and that isn't a major heartbreak for me. However, I certainly never fret about the prospect of losing masculinity.

"When you adopt the standards and the values of someone else or a community or a pressure group, you surrender your own integrity. You become, to the extent of your surrender, less of a human being." (Eleanor Roosevelt)

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Posted August 8th, 2009 ~ 5:05 pm

I'm definitely masculine, and I like it most of the time. I'm strong, I do martial arts weapon training, medieval weapons training, fencing, I listen to metal, I drink a fair bit. But I don't actually like beer, and I don't watch sports. I don't care about cars at all. I don't let my interests get dictated to me by what is masculine or feminine, these are just the things I enjoy.

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Andreea

Posted August 8th, 2009 ~ 5:52 pm

I'm definitely masculine, and I like it most of the time. I'm strong, I do martial arts weapon training, medieval weapons training, fencing, I listen to metal, I drink a fair bit. But I don't actually like beer, and I don't watch sports. I don't care about cars at all. I don't let my interests get dictated to me by what is masculine or feminine, these are just the things I enjoy.

Definitely a good attitude to take, though I will concede there are activities in my hobby list that do not seem to attract a high female demographic ... but I think we ourselves prove that the social and cultural constructs of "masculine" and "feminine" are no more biological than "le" and "la".

"When you adopt the standards and the values of someone else or a community or a pressure group, you surrender your own integrity. You become, to the extent of your surrender, less of a human being." (Eleanor Roosevelt)

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RedHeadBunny

Posted August 8th, 2009 ~ 8:31 pm

so was I!!! thats just the way things are in the south, girlieness just doesnt quite shine as bright as it does up north. thats what made me ask this question.

I'm not from the South. I'm more of the rural central California, Nevada and Montana mountain ranch type; But I totally get what you mean! I did get a funny mental visual of you in a dainty Southern Belle getup with a fan and parasol and then all of a sudden just lettin' one rip. I'm not much of a farter but I bet I could belch everyone at SK under the table.

But to get back on topic I think JessicaCD13 and Andreea are totally right masculine and feminine really don't have anything to do with male or female it's all just silliness. But don't get me wrong! I love masculine and feminine things. I think they make the world an exciting and unique place! It's just the social stigmas attached, and the power we give these categories I don't like.

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tyler199

Posted August 24th, 2009 ~ 4:38 am

im still very much a man. i love football, i love my girlfriend very much, i love violent deathmetal (as well as many other kinds of music but its appropriated for the topic), and i absolutely love and know everything about firearms. but on the flip side, i love brightly colored, lace-lined underwear and pacifiers, and hairbows, etc. etc. ive often thought that one side of me simply cannot exist without the other, like yin and yang. but some of each side carry over into the other. for example, my feminine side i believe is what allows me to be so poetic and romantic with my girlfriend.

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SamanthaKate

Posted August 24th, 2009 ~ 11:00 am

Hells yeah I am a masculine sissy girl... LOL. J/K

Yeah i have a masculine side that I would be devastated if I lost, it helps me to create some really wonderful characters for my stories. However my feminine side far outshines what masculinity I may have. And as a couple of people mentioned: Andreea and JessicaCD13 (sorry if I missed anyone), it really depends on definition of masculine and feminine and it really is something society puts on things.

Liking stuffed animals, artistic stuff, pretty items, silk and lace, having proper manners are things people tend to associate with femininity now. But we must remember guys once wore silk and lace, guys once wrote poetry and danced and acted. So it is just what our society has said and not what the world says.

And in case anyone wondered I collect stuffed animals, I like artistic things and I like pink and purple, and lace and silk are wonderful feeling. I love mary janes, and high heels, I love dresses and all other sorts of women's clothing and accessories.

But i also like to watch the Superbowl, I like to play video games and watch violent movies.

One more note that goes along with my note above I know plenty of girls who like those supposedly male things I mentioned... so again it is just what society places upon us.

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Posted August 24th, 2009 ~ 11:02 am

But to get back on topic I think JessicaCD13 and Andreea are totally right masculine and feminine really don't have anything to do with male or female it's all just silliness. But don't get me wrong! I love masculine and feminine things. I think they make the world an exciting and unique place! It's just the social stigmas attached, and the power we give these categories I don't like.

Look at (I think it's) knitting. It is seen today as something feminine to do, but it was originally started by male sailors. So while there may be stigmas attached, these stigmas can change over time as well.

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Lobi Vino

Posted August 24th, 2009 ~ 1:06 pm

Sort of, but not really. I'm superficially masculine in some ways like being fairly reserved IRL, and I have a few nerdy 'male' interests. But overall my personality is probably more feminine than masculine, and I'm not afraid to admit some of the girlier things I like.. There's a reason my sisters keep buying me stuffed animals.

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wittle_bwittany

Posted August 24th, 2009 ~ 11:00 pm

Definitely a good attitude to take, though I will concede there are activities in my hobby list that do not seem to attract a high female demographic ... but I think we ourselves prove that the social and cultural constructs of "masculine" and "feminine" are no more biological than "le" and "la".

good point! i never understood the purpose of gender pronouns in languages like french and italion. and the same goes to gender spacific activities. theres no reason for it. its just what the world says it is, and nothing more.

I'm not from the South. I'm more of the rural central California, Nevada and Montana mountain ranch type; But I totally get what you mean! I did get a funny mental visual of you in a dainty Southern Belle getup with a fan and parasol and then all of a sudden just lettin' one rip. I'm not much of a farter but I bet I could belch everyone at SK under the table.

But to get back on topic I think JessicaCD13 and Andreea are totally right masculine and feminine really don't have anything to do with male or female it's all just silliness. But don't get me wrong! I love masculine and feminine things. I think they make the world an exciting and unique place! It's just the social stigmas attached, and the power we give these categories I don't like.

very true. if it were a world where one gender role ruled it would be a very boring place.

im still very much a man. i love football, i love my girlfriend very much, i love violent deathmetal (as well as many other kinds of music but its appropriated for the topic), and i absolutely love and know everything about firearms. but on the flip side, i love brightly colored, lace-lined underwear and pacifiers, and hairbows, etc. etc. ive often thought that one side of me simply cannot exist without the other, like yin and yang. but some of each side carry over into the other. for example, my feminine side i believe is what allows me to be so poetic and romantic with my girlfriend.

this is true. most girls think guys are simple minded drones that watch football on thanksgiving instead of spending time with the family. but this isnt true. if guys could get in touch with his feminine side a little more, it would hange this outlook and more women would give nice guys like us a chance a little more often.

i am brittany her royal puffiness!!!

im officially in love with the color pink.

*hugs and kisses for all*

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RedHeadBunny

Posted August 25th, 2009 ~ 10:01 pm

One more note that goes along with my note above I know plenty of girls who like those supposedly male things I mentioned... so again it is just what society places upon us.

True Dat! tomboys represent!

very true. if it were a world where one gender role ruled it would be a very boring place.

Actually there was an episode of Star Trek Next Generation where there was an androgynous alien race, that felt they evolved 'above' gender. They ridiculed those that felt male or female and brainwashed them to be 'normal' it was on last night and was really sad. (yes I'm a nerd)

Look at (I think it's) knitting. It is seen today as something feminine to do, but it was originally started by male sailors. So while there may be stigmas attached, these stigmas can change over time as well.

I love knitting and crocheting! so is that another manly activity to add to my list?

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tyler199

Posted August 27th, 2009 ~ 3:49 am

good point! i never understood the purpose of gender pronouns in languages like french and italion. and the same goes to gender spacific activities. theres no reason for it. its just what the world says it is, and nothing more.

very true. if it were a world where one gender role ruled it would be a very boring place.

this is true. most girls think guys are simple minded drones that watch football on thanksgiving instead of spending time with the family. but this isnt true. if guys could get in touch with his feminine side a little more, it would hange this outlook and more women would give nice guys like us a chance a little more often.

its what gave me the chance with my current girlfriend who thought she couldn't love until i sincerely wrote/spoke to her endless poems and/or simply romantic words. i dont think i could have without my feminine side.

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dalutheia

Posted August 29th, 2009 ~ 12:47 am

I think it depends on how you define manliness. Manliness is not the total lack of tenderness and gentleness and care. As girly as one becomes, we have to show courage and strength sometimes. But if manliness is only fross stuff, then who needs it?

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penny12

Posted August 30th, 2009 ~ 2:44 am

yes i am a very masculine i listen to heavy music drink lots of beer and watch football but then on the other side i will dress up as a complete sissy and prance around acting fully feminine while yet being fully atracted to girls

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Sissy Kimi

Posted August 30th, 2009 ~ 2:52 am

I'm definitely masculine, and I like it most of the time. I'm strong, I do martial arts weapon training, medieval weapons training, fencing, I listen to metal, I drink a fair bit. But I don't actually like beer, and I don't watch sports. I don't care about cars at all. I don't let my interests get dictated to me by what is masculine or feminine, these are just the things I enjoy.

I'm kinda with Jessica, I like doing guy things, or things in general. However, I think it would be cool to be able to pass as a girl in public (don't plan on trying that anytime soon). On the other hand, I would like to have a stronger build and be a man. The two just don't seem to go together very well, since I don't plan on crossdressing, I might as well go with the muscle.

-Sissy Kimi

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Sissy Canada

Posted September 2nd, 2009 ~ 8:21 am

for the most part infront of family, friends and coworkers i'm just like anyother guy. but when i am in my basement suite of the house i am a total sissy, i love to just strip down to my panties and throw on a nice bra and even some pantyhose. sleeping i always wear my pink nightgown and a nice pair of pantis and sometimes a bra.

i always try to retain at least some of my sissy side when out and about because i only wear panties and sometimes a bra if the shirt will allow it and have not worn men's underwear in over 6 years.

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Lobi Vino

Posted September 2nd, 2009 ~ 2:44 pm

Not really. I mean I'm not flaming but I pretty much fit the shy bookworm stereotype IRL and people that know me are aware of a lot of my quirks (like my love for stuffed animals). Not exactly macho. :P

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Jennifer Funshine

Posted September 3rd, 2009 ~ 12:20 am

I do not consider myself "masculine" and personally I dislike
the distinction people have made between the two sexes.
I have a tendency to drink booze, I don't consider it a masculine trait,
rather one of that of my poetic self. I don't like cars but I appreciate
their beauty and sense of speed. I enjoy action movies but only if the story
really measures up. I also happen to love fighting games and martial arts.
but that's exactly what it is to me... a form of art.

What it boils down to is two components: Perspective and Surroundings.
The one is constantly manipulating the other,
it is only when we actively choose to step away
from their equation that such questions seem valid.
So, Do I retain my manlyness?
Yes, when it feels comfortable and appropriate for me, I do :)

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bettisweetie

Posted September 3rd, 2009 ~ 10:01 am

While not macho I do function as a man in the real world. Certain things have changed, like switching from lifting to running for exercise (167lbs to 150-thinner arms and waist!). But the majority of my sexual feelings are sissy fem.

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diaperme70

Posted September 19th, 2009 ~ 2:41 am

I have no desire to be a sissy all the time, but some of the time, sure

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SamiamBaby

Posted September 23rd, 2009 ~ 5:36 am

I still enjoy being a guy, but I just like to think I have the best of both worlds.

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