This is "Sheila" I visit Safe House Exhibitions (in Chicago) from time to time and it's pretty cool.
They have parties every Saturday night from 8:00pm to 2:00am
They let TGirls in free and cater to all lifestyles and usually have free drinks at their Saturday night parties.
It's an art gallery during the week so it's pretty nice.
Their website is here:
You can find a video here:
I know it's difficult to find a place to hang out and have fun....hope this helps.