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i have a question about transitioning. I have really low self esteem and i dont know if it is because i am unhappy as a boy or if something else altogether is the cause. I do know that when i was like 4-7 there were a few times i got bullied by older more macho boys in my grade and cried myself to sleep because inside i knew how nice life must be for girls as opposed to boys and wished i had been born a girl (no one found out), so i know i've wanted this a LONG time. Anyway, my question is - how many of you saw a really great boost in self esteem after transitioning and how many changed for the worse? I think of myself as hideous and whenever i tell girls i date they are like lol ur fine looking imo - maybe just a bit awckward. How many of you feel more comfortable in a female body? I just dont want to come out to my family about how i want this if im just gonna feel worse afterwards. i am so emotionaly fried from years of surpressing my true identity and i haven't told anyone IRL yet. Does SK have words of wisdom for me?
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prissyprincess
  Hi !! sweetie I know oh to well what you,ve been through and are still going thru , I,m no doc. but I,ve found dealing with this on a day to day base can be somewhat painful but it,s whats inside of you that counts not whats outside . so dealing with lifes day to day challenges can be trying you must maintain you own person thats whats deep inside of you . someday soon we all hope things are changeing for our own betterment as I,ve seen for myself . Keeping up yourself is #1 and that is what counts girl . hold your head up high . no one will ever be you . Just drop me a line if I can help in any way dear I,m only trying to help BIG HUGGLE & KISSIES    
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e-chan
Well, from how I read your post, it sounds like you want to be a girl to escape the tormenting you receive as a guy?

If so, then that doesn't sound like a really good reason to transition. Just hold on for a while longer until you can get things sorted out.

But if you have always had a true desire to be a female, and you can't think of living the rest of your life as a male, then you should look into the transition part.

You don't have to go for a full sex change to be feminine. If you feel that you should be a female for real, you should start by finding a psychologist who deals with Gender Identity Disorder, or whatever name they call it in your area.

They aren't cheap (mine was $100 an hour but I was covered under welfare benefits), and sometimes really hard to find.


After you talk to one for a while they may be able to help you make the decision.

And to answer your question, yes, while I am "girling it up" I do find myself to be alot more happier than when I am living as a normal guy. I will be seeing my hormone doctor for the first time on october 8th and hopefully starting some estrogen treatments.

From then on, I am not sure what will happen yet.
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Kvetinka
Hi,

I would do it again every time. I had the full program. But now I am the babygirl I have always dreamt of. I finally wet my diapers like a girl, as diapers are usally designed for girl.

The only problem are other mainstream T-girls. While their worst dream after SRS is becoming incontinent, I wear diapers voluntarily.

Babygirl Kvetinka
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SissyAyanami


 i have a question about transitioning. I have really low self esteem and i dont know if it is because i am unhappy as a boy or if something else altogether is the cause. I do know that when i was like 4-7 there were a few times i got bullied by older more macho boys in my grade and cried myself to sleep because inside i knew how nice life must be for girls as opposed to boys and wished i had been born a girl (no one found out), so i know i've wanted this a LONG time. Anyway, my question is - how many of you saw a really great boost in self esteem after transitioning and how many changed for the worse? I think of myself as hideous and whenever i tell girls i date they are like lol ur fine looking imo - maybe just a bit awckward. How many of you feel more comfortable in a female body? I just dont want to come out to my family about how i want this if im just gonna feel worse afterwards. i am so emotionaly fried from years of surpressing my true identity and i haven't told anyone IRL yet. Does SK have words of wisdom for me?  




I've read upon on this...and have talked to others. I'd really start by questioning WHY you want to transition, with all the issues behind it. Then ask yourself if you'd be better by taking months of hormones and THEN getting treatment...or simply getting therapy to resolve other issues. Also life for women isn't always so easy. You have to worry about being raped, you tend to get less pay, and other things. Not to mention it helps a lot if you have the face and body for it. If you're going to get the surgery, you should really think if you could actually pass. You also have to see if it's just more then just a sexual fantasy...if it's more the clothes...and other stuff. You have to see if you REALLY NEED it, and you couldn't do other things instead, and if you want it for the right reasons.

Another thing to consider: How do you feel about possibly loosing all your current friends and family? Until you start to test the waters, you might have the face the fact that you COULD loose most OR all of the friends and family you have now irl.
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Lavander
Dr. Koen, taking what was just said into account: Life for girls isn't any easier than life for boys, just different. If it is hard to face the challenges of your gender, think how hard it must be to face the challenges of a gender you are not. I think you should get some professional counseling before you make any decisions on where to take your real life gender identity. Often keeping it in the role of fantasy and pleasure is enough for many. Perhaps that is true for you or perhaps it isn't but I think you would benefit from finding a professional to help you ask yourself the right questions and to provide you some substantial guidance.


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Lynniegirl
Hmm well time to throw my two cents in. So, here it is. I agree with everyone else that you definitely need to figure out why ya wanna be a girl. As they've said its not problem free just different problems. However if you do really feel like you're a girl inside a boys body then transitioning is definitely something to look further into. Now as for the self esteem question personally my self esteem went through the roof post transition. At least after the inital hurdles of the "oh no i'm ugly" stages. Now that being said I still get self esteem hits since well the "ideal" female body image is just as hard for me to obtain as it is for most girls. Still since I was already dealing with these body image desires and was unable to even come closer to attaining them pre transition my self esteem was even lower. So all in all it was a self esteem boost. So basically if the reason you consider yourelf hideous is cause you're not a girl then transitioning is highly likely to help you. If you do want to consider counselling of some sort, and if you're not sure what you wanna do counselling is very helpful, feel free to send me a message. I have a few lists of gender specialists and some websites that might be of help to you. Anyways hope this helps a bit take care and be well :)

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Sissy sarah
Hi As a preop. going on Post up (staterted my evaluatin dec 2008 alredey living 24/7 as a girl since 6 years to keep my mind ) i will also give my openion.

I agree 100 % with all you girls advice . Become a woman isent going to make your life a fairy tale im afraid . And like Sissy ayanami sais you risk loosing some or all your friends. And Maby your parents. Plus take a good look at how the wimens gender role is in your countrey. Thats how you will be tretaed too and expected to act and live like. Are you okey with this ? the wirk as you know useley wimen gets low paying un glamorus wimen Jobs .Are you okey with that? However in my ears (or eyes ) i have to dicagre with e chan. Frome what i here you sound JUSt like a transexuel.

What i whould suggest BEFORE you seek contact with the experts 8 and loose alot of money ) . Try to contact a transexuel support organasation in your countrey (just search the wbb there out there honey) And also Take the opertunetey to use us girls in here that reaches out our arms to help you .

But the MOST important thing is GET YOUR MIND STRAIGHT BEFORE YOU TRANSITION
(i held out until i was 30 and its onley 1 year ago i fineley had to surrender and seek profechonal help because i cant live like this anymore (and i am preperd fore what ever comes my way loos friends or whatever i will go thrue with this NOMETHER WHAT.

This is how strong you HAVE to be if youre going thrue with this my dear . And you may ask ANY post up and im shore she will tel you that this was the hardest thing they EVER had to do

And If you feel somehow drawn to wear this sexy feminin clothes after you have started to live as a woman that atraction will fade FAST But you still have to wear panties and skirts and all that and be treted like a woman.

And aso there are eaven some Postups that regret there choice after its done

Im NOT whanting to scare you honey. Just make shore you get all the facts NOONE does this because we whant to WE HAVE TO to be able to continue living

And of course my dear im only a Pm away too if you need me. 24/7

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combatsissy
from my personal experiences, holding somthing back thats in your head isnt good for you at all. I know a little about this destruction. Severe ptsd, went through a couples programs and finaly able to talk to my wife about what is realy going on. since I stoped holding everything back my life has been better. I just recently told my wife (who dont mind me wearing pantys) that I wanted to explore my sissy side and buy a pair of short girly cotton shorts and a cute top to go with it. Just telling her that took so much axiety, anger, depression, lost all that the mind is a crazy thing we cant controll! So I have problems from combat, being blown up. then telling my wife I want to wear pantys and now exploreing my iner girl. Good luck
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