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OopsiePanty

Posted June 17th, 2009 ~ 2:49 pm

I have never been on the chat on this site, but I'd venture a guess that a lot of the people entering chat are not the kind of people who frequent SK. What you are describing sounds a lot more like the preditory males on many other sites. One of the reasons I have made a nest here is the lack of said kind of people. Either that or you are talking to the sadest adult babies in the world who at 50 have yet to figure out how to masturbate. The next time someone asks you how to make creamies in their diaper, tell them to pour hot coffee down the front of it

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Twilight Starknight

Posted June 17th, 2009 ~ 3:30 pm

lol well last one that asked me i told them to figure it out themselve with a FFS threw in but still its agravting for the admins on ther with some annoyances n members asking the stupidest stuff to us cause wer admins

Nobody wins when everyone's losing

One step forward and two steps back
No matter what I do you're always mad
And I can't change your mind,

Oh, it's like

Trying to turn around on a one way street
I can't give you what you want
And it's killing me and I, I'm starting to see
Maybe we're not meant to be

It's never enough to say I love you
No, it's never enough to say I try
It's hard to believe that's there's
No way out for you and me
And it seems to be,
The story of our life

Nobody wins when everyone's losing

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prissyprincess

Posted June 17th, 2009 ~ 3:51 pm

sorry dear about the problem I don,t use the chat room . but I can only guess that there are those who just try to be as you say annoying , thats just their nature , or don,t know any better , Stay sweet dear

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SissyJessy

Posted June 17th, 2009 ~ 4:44 pm

Yes, sometimes people may be a tad pushy, but I don't think they realize at times that they are being pushy. Majority of the time the chat zone has been wonderful for me, you just have to set your boundaries and say no thank you. If they become a real problem, just tell someone like a mod or something (We have those in the chat room, right? lol)

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OopsiePanty

Posted June 17th, 2009 ~ 4:54 pm

And when all else fails, try:

*evil grin*

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Twilight Starknight

Posted June 17th, 2009 ~ 5:14 pm

lol yeh jessy im like the level above mod tho :P n oppsie tht is a nice idea but itd only b fun to watch tht happen
^^

Nobody wins when everyone's losing

One step forward and two steps back
No matter what I do you're always mad
And I can't change your mind,

Oh, it's like

Trying to turn around on a one way street
I can't give you what you want
And it's killing me and I, I'm starting to see
Maybe we're not meant to be

It's never enough to say I love you
No, it's never enough to say I try
It's hard to believe that's there's
No way out for you and me
And it seems to be,
The story of our life

Nobody wins when everyone's losing

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~*Christie Luv*~

Posted June 17th, 2009 ~ 9:37 pm

hey all i felt like i should just ask if anyone would be kind enough to tell me why some people come into the chat n ask stuff like make me a girl or how do i make creamies in my diaper etc its quite annoying especially when your askin people without even finding out if its ok to pm them first im slightly annoyed by this n ive had enough of it

Hi Sophie! Based on those things you said they are implied with what the site is about. Since this is an adult site so people can talk about making creamies in their diapers as long as they are nice about it. If your not into talking about that you can wait until the conversation is over or PM someone.

This is also a site for people who like being feminized so its okay if they want to roleplay in the chat about being feminized.

But if they are doing it in a way that you can see they are just trying to be annoying then, yeah they aren't supposed to be doing it that way. Like if they ask over and over again but no one has shown that they don't want to talk about that.

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OopsiePanty

Posted June 17th, 2009 ~ 10:39 pm

Hi Sophie! Based on those things you said they are implied with what the site is about. Since this is an adult site so people can talk about making creamies in their diapers as long as they are nice about it. If your not into talking about that you can wait until the conversation is over or PM someone.

This is also a site for people who like being feminized so its okay if they want to roleplay in the chat about being feminized.

But if they are doing it in a way that you can see they are just trying to be annoying then, yeah they aren't supposed to be doing it that way. Like if they ask over and over again but no one has shown that they don't want to talk about that.

It seems to me there is a difference between people chatting about a topic and people sending you PMs like that without even knowing you because you were logged into the chat.

To me it's rude like spamming A/S/L over and over again. Things of a sexual nature need to be between consenting beings, otherwise it is just sexual harassment or worse.

And I am not saying we disagree Christie, but I think that Pixie is saying she is getting harassing PMs as a side effect of being in chat, not that she is disagreeing with the chat content.

Which is why I went straight to the hot coffee

A young girl's greatest fear isn't monsters, or magical threats from beyond time and space.
No, a young girl's greatest fear overshadows all of those things.

Her greatest fear is to be alone.

(Still your little Guardian Shadow, now just with wings!)

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~*Christie Luv*~

Posted June 17th, 2009 ~ 10:51 pm

Thank you Oopsie Panty for clarifying. Yeah I don't think its okay to just say that in a PM without asking them first.

Some people get carried away and do it, but they may not mean anything bad by it. So its good to just let them know at first, to not come onto people so fast. I see Sophie Pixies point if she meant it in that way. If they keep it up its time for the mods to step in.

Some people are newbies to adult gatherings so they don't know whats rude and what isn't when talking about stuff like that.

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Sarah Candy Lee

Posted June 18th, 2009 ~ 12:39 am

i love it when they ask it are you a girl and such its fun :P

i usually reply well if i was a girl do you think i would tell you i know what you want looking for afemale now dont i :P

i mean some are genuine ok people or jsut want to know what gender their chattign to
but opeing ia conversation with are you m or f ?
i mean seriously learn a bit abotu the internet before going on it

but either way it they close the pm window on them dont ever bothre explaining
unless your like me and soph then explain about privacte chat and such if they still dont get it its why they gave us mods powers

the umm let us say fugurative versions of the coffee

i should probably write something really profound =)

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Twilight Starknight

Posted June 19th, 2009 ~ 11:34 am

what i was meaning is that people come in ask questions like that an if you dont give them the answer they want they usually get annoyed n start swearing or pestering you for ages.

its harasment to be honest an it happens almost exclusivly with the admins n mods but no one does anything about it cause we warn them n say dont do it again n they dont listen n keep it up hell half the time it happens to me is when im doin something else an i get a chat window sayin something like asl,change me,play with me etc its annoyin n ther isnt anything in the rules against it i know but ther should at least be some common manners with people ive told people before il kick them from the chat if they keep it up n most of the time they do after i leave so its a total pain in the bum.

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~*Christie Luv*~

Posted June 19th, 2009 ~ 5:40 pm

Hi Sophie! Sure I can add something like that to the rules, only for times when they react in a mean or persistent way when someone doesn't want to do those things.

Still try to be nice about it and if they keep it up after you've said no in a nice way a couple times and given them a warning, you can use the kick or ban button depending on how bad they are doing it.

See things from their point of view, some people are new to situations like that and don't know whats rude and what isn't. Which is reason to just let them know in a nice way at first. They expect to be able to talk about those things because thats what the chat room is about but if someone says they don't want to talk about it in a PM the people who want to shouldn't be mean to them.

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This is what I added to the rules:

Forcing someone to talk with you or talk about a certain subject, if you send someone a Private Message and they say no, they don't want to talk about a certain thing, or talk at all at the moment, you have to respect that since you were the one who PM'ed them. The chat is about Sissies, Feminizing and being Babied but if someone doesn't want to talk about that you have to respect that. Ask someone nicely when PM'ing someone if they would like to talk about it, instead of saying to talk about this in a demanding way. The mods may need to step in if people have let you know a couple times but if you accidentally do it the first time then thats okay it happens with being a newbie.

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OopsiePanty

Posted June 19th, 2009 ~ 5:43 pm

Oh, yeah Pixie, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. Not from this site, but from another. It's still preditory behaviour in my book though. Just because it is driven by sexual frustration (and maybe some alcohol) doesn't make it excusable.

Is there no way for the mods and admin to ban people? Or maybe better yet, give the mods the power over a spam bot which does nothing but open a PM everytime they close it and spam them with garbage and then open a new window every minute with more garbage, those of which closewill just spawn 2 more? The longer they stick around, the more slowly sadistic the bot becomes including showing them adds for viagra and penis growth!!!

*grins evily*

After the adults I have delt with as a child, I am pretty much done with preditors in all shapes and forms.

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Posted June 19th, 2009 ~ 7:18 pm

You know I have tried to join in chat but as a newbie you get ignored by heaps of people who openly chat in little clicks. Iit is just like not being in the popular group at school. .
I am a girl and I just ignore those guys who are not polite or rude. You yourself often ignore people who you haven't even got to know even when they are polite. So I don't get what your so upset about.
Perhaps if you took the time to talk outside you own little click you may find not everyone is like you think.
Be happy that you actually have someone who wants to know you and remember there are people who just want to get to know you.
If people had not just PM to me I would not of met some of the most beautiful people I have here online.
Most guys here are AB, LG Sissy and much nicer than the beer swilling, football and cars guys elsewhere.
I have a few good lines fore those XXXX XXXX that turns them off real quick.

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Twilight Starknight

Posted June 19th, 2009 ~ 8:56 pm

You know I have tried to join in chat but as a newbie you get ignored by heaps of people who openly chat in little clicks. Iit is just like not being in the popular group at school. .
I am a girl and I just ignore those guys who are not polite or rude. You yourself often ignore people who you haven't even got to know even when they are polite. So I don't get what your so upset about.
Perhaps if you took the time to talk outside you own little click you may find not everyone is like you think.
Be happy that you actually have someone who wants to know you and remember there are people who just want to get to know you.
If people had not just PM to me I would not of met some of the most beautiful people I have here online.
Most guys here are AB, LG Sissy and much nicer than the beer swilling, football and cars guys elsewhere.
I have a few good lines fore those XXXX XXXX that turns them off real quick.

well thts cos mostly im either busy with something else or im keepin an eye on the chat il happyily talk to anyone who wants to.

as for clicks i dont have one tbh the only 3 people il talk to everytime ther on are 3 of the people i know best here and they're all very talkitve with others aswell.

what im upset about is the fact that a portion of the chatters come on and start asking questions an if u dont know an answer they get annoyed n aggitated n in alot of cases start swearing ive dealt with alot of trolls in my time n it annoys me having to deal with members who cant accept tht everyone on here is here for a different reason and in some cases are still relatively new to the chat and do it out of newbieness but there are alot of people who've been here for along time n still do it despite frequently being told to ask first.

as for people im sure everyone who uses the chat is a nice person deep down but aslong as people are causing trouble or annoying anyone im suposed to do something about it an il be honest it gets to the stage wer u lose intrest in just talking an u prefer to jus try n relax without havin to break up a disagreement or sort out some problem.

ALSO im not saying your wrong but you still are a newbie an youve not been here aslong as me and u wernt in the old chat the old chat room was 10X worse on alot of occasions n pmin happend alot more frequently n thts wer the clicks really started showing up ive had alot of experince so im sorta a diffrent person to you.

i will however say 99.9% of the chat is good tht .1% can make a whole world of diffrence to the red icons like myself

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littlegirl_inside

Posted June 20th, 2009 ~ 2:13 am

I do not frequent the chat room as often I should, but I think we have all got a little mixed up with what is right and what is wrong. It seems to me a lot of people are being banned because they have requested something that does not fit in with the current group. There will always be members who want to chat about things that are not group friendly and rather than ban these people we need to eduacte them first. It is a very difficult job to mod the chat rooms, an almost impossible job, given the amount of people out there who want to cause trouble. I think the chatroom mods do an amazing job, there is no question the chat room would be a lot worse off with out them, however there has to be a little understanding when dealing with those persons who want to chat about things some may find not appropriate. As Christie Luv said some people are new to this, new to the site, they cannot be expected to know how our chatrooms function. The way our site is set up can be a little mis-leading, whilst we remain a friendly, helpful and caring sissy site, given the amount of 'captions' that are posted, someone could be forgiven that we are like a lot of other lets say 'pleasure' sites.

Looking at the responces below, it seems to me we have a problem, not a major one and not one that is anyones fault, but something we need to address. With regards to people coming in and asking questions etc, are we directing them to the FAQ page, rather than banning them? I assume they are coming from a porn oriented site, so may believe that SK is the same.

Anyway lets try and make the chat room as friendly as we can, remove those who attempt to hurt members and encourage new members as much as we can. Sissy Kiss is by far the most important sissy site out there and it's through the dedication of you mods that Sissy Kiss will always be, in my eyes at least, number one.

x x x

Samantha

~cliques~

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~*Christie Luv*~

Posted June 20th, 2009 ~ 2:44 am

Hi Sissy Daryl! I agree with you completely! I didn't mean to ban someone if someone misses what our site is about. The new rule is just for if anyone keeps on being rude after people have let them know a couple of times already. I think I should add that in the rule too. Thank you for pointing that out. I very much want our chat room to be a place where newbies can feel free to ask questions about our site and have fun expressing their sissy baby side if they want to.

Thank you hun!

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I added to the rule "The mods may need to step in if people have let you know a couple times but if you accidentally do it the first time then thats okay it happens with being a newbie."

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