You have come to this website because you have been thinking about crossdressing, and you are ready to explore the feminine side of your personality. Very likely, you have had in your mind, images of what you might look like as a female with full breasts and hips. You may be wondering what it would feel like to dress completely as a female, and to be able to pass as a genetic female. You may be yearning for the feel of some satin or lace against your body, or perhaps the feel of a tight-fitting dress draping your curvaceous body. These crossdressing feelings have been in you for some time now and you are now ready to begin to explore the practice of crossdressing.
You may have memories as a child or teenager of the first time that you felt a bra or panties, and the mere thought sends a twinge of excitement over your body. These feelings have been in you and have been repressed for perhaps a long, long time. But, now it’s time express them and to nurture them. You realize that crossdressing is a need that you have to fulfill.
First, I must tell you that you are not alone. There are thousands of crossdressers throughout the world from every country and ethnic background. Crossdressers exist in every culture and socioeconomic level. Some cultures have accepted the practice as commonplace and as nothing extraordinary, while others continue to view it with disdain.
In Thailand and Laos, male-to-female transgender people and effeminate gay men are referred to by the term “kathoey”, and are accepted as a normal part of society.
In American society, crossdressers are often referred to by various terms such as “transvestites”, “drag queens”, “transgendered”, or “transsexuals”, even though there is a significant difference in the meanings of these terms. Generally, American society tends to view crossdressing as something very peculiar or perhaps even weird or perverted. This however, is unfortunate.
It is impossible to determine when crossdressing started, but the practice has been written about since early Greek Mythology. So, men have been dressing in women’s attire for centuries. Yet, even today there is much misunderstanding about the practice. The intent of this website is to shed light on the subject so that transvestism can become accepted as a normal practice done by normal individuals.
If you are a “newbie” to crossdressing, you may be experiencing some mixed feelings. You may be excited about the vision you have in your mind of yourself as a female, and thrilled about making it a reality. On the other hand, you may have feelings of anxiety wondering if you are gay, perverted, or if “something” is wrong with you. You may be extremely anxious when you think about “What would my family think if they discovered that I like to wear female clothing?” “What would my wife do if she caught me in a pair of her panties?” “Would they accept me, or would they leave me or think that I am mentally unstable?” Yet, you feel guilt because the fantasy and how it feels to be in women’s clothes feels so good! These are common feelings that many crossdressers experience. These are questions that many crossdressers ask themselves and struggle with.
Let me assure you that there is nothing “wrong” with you. First of all, although some crossdressers are gay, most crossdressers are heterosexual. They very much enjoy sex with females, lead normal lives, and have normal relationships and families. I have never heard of a crossdressing pedophile, so we don’t mess with children and therefore we’re not perverts. If you were to be caught speeding while driving a car in a dress and high heels, the police officer would most likely react with no more than a smile, write you up with a ticket, and send you on your way.
The first thing that you have to do before you explore crossdressing is to “get right” with yourself. If you are gay or straight, or anything in between most likely you already know. Just because you have thoughts of sex with a man does not make you gay. Just because you fantasize about being a Victoria’s Secret runway model, does not make you “weird”.
There is no need to feel guilty about wanting to wear female clothes. These are feelings that you have had for a long time. They are not likely to go away. Crossdressing for many males is a need that has to be expressed. Many who do not have the freedom to express themselves, or to explore their gender identity often experience distress. This distress is referred to as “gender dysphoria” and may manifest as depression or inability to form healthy relationships with others. Gender identity disorder is considered a disorder only if it causes distress, disability, or negatively affects personal relationships.
There is no way to predict how your “significant others” will react if they suddenly discover that you like to wear make-up and garter belts. Some may accept it as just another side of you, while others may react to you in total disgust! It is a risk that only you can decide to take. Many crossdressers continue to remain in “the closet” and dress only in secret. Others dress openly and are completely accepted by their family and friends. Only you can decide if and when you want to “come out.”
If you have decided to begin the adventure, then at this time I would suggest that you go to the top of this page, enter your personal information, and subscribe to “Wicked Wanda’s CD Tips Newsletter.” You will immediately be given access to many tips, tricks, and resources that will help you to create your female image.
For the Experienced Crossdresser
You’ve been crossdressing for a while now. You have the equipment necessary to create your feminine figure. You know about “gaffs”, corsets, and silicone breasts. You have the basic techniques for putting on your makeup, and you have some nice girly clothes and accessories. You may even be going out in public and trying to pass as a genetic female.
If you are at the intermediate/advanced stage, then you are most likely trying to refine your dressing techniques. You are trying to learn the advanced details that will not only help you to pass as a female, but you want to learn the finer elements of being a woman. In other words, you want to become what I call an “Ultra-crossdresser.”